Planning a wedding is an exciting experience. Sometimes, though, it can feel a bit bittersweet if one or more of your parents have passed on. You likely assumed that parent would be at your wedding and would be able to enjoy the experience with you. Things can get even harder when it comes to wedding traditions that typically involve that parent. If you find yourself in this position, there are several things you can do.
Have a Stand-in
In some cases, you might want to have someone else stand in for the deceased parent. For example, an older brother, uncle, or grandpa might walk you down the aisle. An aunt could step in to take over the mother-of-the-bride duties.
Honor the Person
During a moment where that person would traditionally play an important part, take the time to honor that parent. For example, just before the father-daughter dance, you may want to make a speech about how your father was an important part of your life and how you wish that he could be there. You could then take the time to share a memory or two of your father. Parents who have passed on may also be honored by creating a place for them at the head table. You may also want to include a picture of that person. While some people do not like the idea, having a picture of that parent, which can be incorporated into family photos is another way to honor any parents who have passed on.
For some couples, the best solution is to simply skip the tradition. You can acknowledge that you are skipping the tradition, or you can simply not do it. You could even tweak the tradition to fit your needs or style. For example, the traditional father-daughter dance could be replaced with the bride dancing on her own to a song they used to dance to together.
No one solution is perfect for every couple. You may want to discuss with your future spouse how you want to handle traditions that typically involve your parents if one or more of your parents have passed on.
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